It’s ok to take care of yourself.
We all need to take care of ourselves, mentally and physically, not just for our own benefit but also for the benefit of those around us. Whether it’s in the form of taking a warm bath, meditating, going to dinner with a friend or reading a good book self care should be a priority in your life. It’s not selfish and not something you should feel guilty about. Pushing yourself to the point of physical or mental exhaustion doesn’t benefit anyone.
We all need help at times.
Even people who don’t suffer from any illness or disability need help from time to time and it’s ok to ask for that help. When you are disabled and feel you need more help than the average person it can make you feel like a burden on those around you. It is important to be considerate of others but remember that the people who care about you want to help you.
You don’t have to live up to anyone else’s standards.
It’s important to be happy with yourself but it’s an unnecessary stress to worry about living up to someone else’s expectations. You don’t have to be superman to be a good person. Just be the best version of yourself and love who you are.
There is no “normal”.
When living with disability or chronic illness it can be easy to focus on the things we can’t do that others can do. So often I hear people say they just wish they had a “normal” life. Every life is unique and comes with a unique set of challenges and blessings. Even the people who seem to have everything have to deal with their own hardships. It is unfair that some people have more hardships than others but the best we can do is to find a way to appreciate what we do have.